Intimate partner violence (IPV) is a worldwide social problem. The current study explores underlining mechanisms of phenomenon by tying together intergenerational transmission theory, socialization theory, and trauma theory. It learns from men how the father figure shaped by their childhood experiences has contributed to their violence, how the father’s socialization to manhood has affected their intimate relations, and how they understand the effect of being exposed to the father’s violence on their own intimate relationships and violence. Interviews with 25 Israeli men were analyzed thematically in the phenomenological approach. Thematic analysis revealed five themes describing men’s experiences of their father’s aggression and detachment; men’s experience of their intimate relations; men’s image of women; men’s fear of being infected or conquered by their partners’ emotionality; and an overarching theme describing the understanding that men and women are destined to live in an intractable conflict that only violence can end. The interviewees explained that when hardened detached men raised by violent fathers interact with an emotional woman, they experience painful feelings and are threatened by her emotionality; consequently, they will use violence against that threat to stop their pain. The findings support a multidimensional integrative perspective of IPV and call for a theoretical synthesis of these men’s models of violence. Implications for future research and practice are discussed.

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暴力的慢性性预告：迈向亲密伴侣暴力的综合理论


亲密伴侣暴力 （IPV） 是一个世界性的社会问题。目前的研究通过将代际传递理论、社会化理论和创伤理论联系起来，探讨了强调现象的机制。它从男性那里了解到童年经历塑造的父亲形象如何导致他们的暴力，父亲的社会化成为男子气概如何影响他们的亲密关系，以及他们如何理解暴露于父亲的暴力对他们自己的亲密关系和暴力的影响。对 25 名以色列男性的采访采用现象学方法进行了主题分析。主题分析揭示了五个主题，描述了男性对父亲的侵略和疏离的经历;男人对他们亲密关系的经历;男性对女性的形象;男人害怕被伴侣的情感感染或征服;以及一个总体主题，描述了这样一种理解，即男人和女人注定要生活在一场只有暴力才能结束的棘手冲突中。受访者解释说，当由暴力父亲抚养长大的顽固、疏离的男人与情绪化的女人互动时，他们会经历痛苦的感受，并受到她的情绪化的威胁;因此，他们将使用暴力来对抗这种威胁来停止他们的痛苦。这些发现支持 IPV 的多维综合观点，并呼吁对这些男性的暴力模型进行理论综合。讨论了对未来研究和实践的影响。