Sexual compliance (i.e., consensually engaging in sex despite a lack of desire for it) is common in committed intimate relationships, but the consequences of compliance for the well-being of the individual and the relationship are poorly understood. We investigated the perceived consequences of sexual compliance and perceptions of factors contributing to negative/positive consequences by applying qualitative content analysis to free-text retrospective survey responses from 107 (mostly) Finnish adults. We identified five themes of personal consequences (emotions and mood, sexual experience, sexual desire, pressure and violations, and physical pain), four of relational consequences (relationship satisfaction, partner’s response, relationship interaction, and value alignment), and nine of possible factors contributing to negative/positive consequences (communication, self-esteem, motives for sex, relationship factors, agency and self-knowledge, mental health and stress, psychological flexibility, societal norms, and past negative experiences). Perceived consequences varied widely across individuals, both in terms of whether any positive or negative consequences were experienced and whether compliance was perceived as improving or worsening specific domains of well-being. We discuss the themes identified in relation to previous theories of sexuality and intimate relationships and offer hypotheses that can be tested in future quantitative studies.

性顺从（即尽管缺乏欲望但自愿进行性行为）在忠诚的亲密关系中很常见，但人们对顺从对个人福祉和关系的影响知之甚少。我们通过对 107 名（主要是）芬兰成年人的自由文本回顾性调查回复进行定性内容分析，调查了性顺从的感知后果以及对导致消极/积极后果的因素的看法。我们确定了个人后果的五个主题（情绪和心情、性经历、性欲、压力和侵犯以及身体疼痛）、关系后果的四个主题（关系满意度、伴侣的反应、关系互动和价值观一致）和可能的九个主题导致消极/积极后果的因素（沟通、自尊、性动机、关系因素、代理和自我认识、心理健康和压力、心理灵活性、社会规范和过去的消极经历）。个体之间感知到的后果差异很大，无论是经历了积极还是消极的后果，以及遵守是否被认为改善或恶化了特定的福祉领域。我们讨论了与先前的性和亲密关系理论相关的主题，并提供了可以在未来的定量研究中进行检验的假设。