ABSTRACT

Sex is a crucial factor that impacts the quality and stability of relationships, yet many couples report recurrent sexual issues – such as discrepancies in their desired sexual frequency or levels of sexual desire – that detract from their relationship quality. This article describes how applying the theory of communal motivation from relationship science to the sexual domain of relationships can shed light onto understanding how couples can maintain desire over time, remain satisfied in the face of conflicting sexual interests, and decline one another’s sexual advances in ways that protect their relationship. We integrate a decade of research on communal motivation, sexual rejection, and responses to sexual rejection to provide a better, and more holistic, understanding of how partners can successfully balance their sexual needs to ultimately reap the powerful rewards of a fulfiling sexual connection.

摘要

性是影响人际关系质量和稳定的关键因素，但是许多夫妇报告说，经常发生的性问题（例如，他们期望的性交频率或性欲水平上的差异）有损于他们的关系质量。本文介绍了如何将关系科学中的公共动机理论应用到关系的性领域中，可以帮助我们理解夫妻如何随着时间的推移保持欲望，面对性利益冲突而保持满足并以某种方式拒绝对方的性进步保护他们的关系。我们整合了十年的公共动机，性排斥和对性排斥反应的研究，以提供更好，更全面的信息，