As the silence of male CRSV victims continues to be debated, some argue that gender norms and a lack of agency contribute to the silence of victims, even as others assert that victims exercise agency by speaking selectively about their experiences. In northern Nigeria, the concept of kunya—a model for appropriate behaviour rooted in the importance of secrecy and discretion—plays a role in the silencing of victims. We examine how kunya contributes to the invisibility of victims and influences their silence, as well as how victims use silence to gain social tolerability and/or protect themselves from re-victimization. We argue that an attentiveness to such community-specific cultural precepts and norms can further our understanding of the silence (and silencing) of victims and survivors.

随着男性 CRSV 受害者的沉默问题继续受到争论，一些人认为性别规范和缺乏能动性导致了受害者的沉默，尽管其他人声称受害者通过有选择地谈论自己的经历来行使能动性。在尼日利亚北部，kunya 的概念——一种植根于保密和谨慎的重要性的适当行为模式——在让受害者保持沉默方面发挥着作用。我们研究kunya如何导致受害者的隐形并影响他们的沉默，以及受害者如何利用沉默来获得社会容忍和/或保护自己免受伤害再次受害。我们认为，关注此类特定社区的文化戒律和规范可以加深我们对受害者和幸存者的沉默（和沉默）的理解。